Saturday, February 6, 2016


     I cannot tell you how many times I have thought long and hard about the generation that my children are growing up in.  With nearly all of my "mom friends" this topic has surfaced on more than one occasion and at times has left me with a sense of hopelessness.  Surely our daughters will struggle with their image after much comparison to the flawless images flooding their social media outlets.  I have.  Surely they will feel inadequate as the culture tells them over and over that their self worth is directly related to their sex appeal.  I have.  And what of our boys?  According to statistics will they not likely fall into the growing statistic of young boys addicted to pornography and thus completely alter their view of what it means to respect a woman?  Will they not have false unrealistic expectations that will ultimately leave them utterly unfulfilled?  But what if?  What if as their Moms, we were different?


WHAT IF we quit comparing ourselves?

"But when they measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding." 2 COR 10:12

WHAT IF we quit analyzing all of our flaws and rushing to the surgeon every time we felt inadequate? 

"You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you." SONG OF SOL 4:7

WHAT IF we spent more time talking about the ways in which we could be a blessing to others as oppose to what is wrong with everyone else?  Gossip, though momentarily may give you a small amount of pleasure, in the end it only robs you of your joy.

"Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves." PHIL 2:3

WHAT IF "real" became the new "perfect?" Real photos, real eyelashes, real hair, real boobs, real eyebrows, real wrinkles, REAL LIFE.

" Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." PROV 31:30

WHAT IF we were content?

"Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”" HEB 13:5

WHAT IF our fulfillment truly came from our Creator and not from the way in which others viewed us?

"For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ." GAL 1:10

WHAT IF we slowed down?

"Be still and know that I am God." PSALMS 46:10

 Moms, it starts with us.  Our kids may remember bits and pieces of words that we have spoken to them over the years, but more than anything they will remember who we are.  They will remember how we lived.  If we are constantly comparing ourselves and pointing out flaws only to search for a "quick fix" they will do the same.  Our daughters will learn very quickly that you can simply "fix" what you do not like and more times than not that leads to an endless road of disappointment.  Our sons will learn this pattern as well and when the day comes that his bride has a melt down over her aging body he will likely think he is helping her by agreeing to "fix" whatever she doesn't like, when actually all she wanted was for him to tell her that he loves her the way she is.  

If we are gossips, our children will be.  Finding it much easier to point out the defects in others rather  than seeing their own.  

If we struggle through life always looking for the "next best thing" never realizing that the "best thing" is right in front of us then we will also pass down a legacy of discontentment.   

Whom do you seek approval from?  Anyone apart from Jesus Christ will leave you empty and they will leave your children empty as well.  

     BUT WHAT IF?  WHAT IF we as moms really and truly grabbed our paddles and although it may seem impossible began paddling upstream willing and ready to face the rapids of our culture with the Holy Spirit giving us strength and filling us with truth.  WHAT IF we could change a generation by changing ourselves and changing our homes.  WHAT IF our husbands couldn't help but to see the change?  WHAT IF the changes sparked a revolution in his own life causing him to grab his own set of paddles refusing to believe that his worth is tied up in his level of success and allow him to see the blessing of what is in front of him.  The temptation to busy ourselves is the great deceiver.  If we just go, go, do, do, we can conquer the world, we think.  But what if, instead, Moms and Dads got to know their kids, talked with their kids daily and became in tune with their struggles and could speak life into them preparing them for the battle ahead.  This world wants us running and gunning 24/7 never stopping to smell the roses and "more" has become our anthem and "vanity" our king, but WHAT IF?         



1 comment:

  1. Great reminders! The insanity of expectations has to stop!


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